The festive season is upon us and although it is a joyous time for most, it is a sad reality that for some – especially older people – it can be a time of loneliness and despair. If you would like to lighten the burden and spend time with an ageing loved one this holiday season, we have some great tips on how to make the most of your time together …
1. Get them involved
Just because your ageing loved one may have physical limitations, it doesn’t mean they can’t be involved in the holiday preparations. Include them in the planning, decorating, baking and gift wrapping. This creates a way for them to feel connected and have a sense of purpose.
2. Bridge the generational gap
Many holiday activities for seniors also happen to be suitable for children of all ages. Involve your children, grandchildren and ageing loved ones in baking treats, looking at pictures, singing Christmas carols and making holiday crafts. Time shared between generations is very special for both the young and the old – they have so much to give to each other.
3. Avoid the hustle and bustle
Busy shopping malls can be extremely overwhelming for older people. Instead, help your loved one to look for gifts online. If they insist on going to the shops, accompany them and try to go early in the morning when it is not so crowded.
4. Minimise stress
Instead of having mom do all the cooking, why not bring the celebration to her this year? Reducing the workload of seniors can help them better appreciate get-togethers. Instead of preparing everything from scratch, consider using store-bought or premade dishes to complement homemade favourites.
5. Slow down
While it is important to keep family traditions alive, it may be necessary to modify or simplify some traditions so that your ageing loved one can keep up. For instance, if you used to go out for carols by candlelight, why not light some candles and play the carols in the comfort of your own home?
6. Lend a listening ear
Take time to remember the losses your loved one may be suffering and have compassion for their sadness. Listening to their recollections of holidays past will make them feel heard and can help you to keep the memories alive.
7. Strive for positivity, not perfection
Create a positive atmosphere without being artificially cheery or over-exerting yourself. Seniors are often sensitive to the moods and feelings of the people around them – if you are a ball of stress, they will pick up on this and feel uneasy themselves. Things don’t have to be perfect to be pleasant.
And lastly, remember: Your time and attention are the best gifts you can give your elderly loved one. The rest is tinsel.
